Letting Go (A Mini Ritual)
“Ritual is to the internal sciences what experiment is to the external sciences.” ~Timothy Leary
Letting go is simple but it sure isn’t easy!
We like to hold tight to the familiar – to the comfortable (no matter how uncomfortable it might be).
It’s easier to play the ‘greatest hits’ of our self-talk because we can mindlessly hum along.
It’s easier to keep moving forward without taking a moment to stop and have a mini breakdown in order to repair what has lingered from the past.
It’s easier to stuff, repress, ignore, push to the corners, take care of it another day, and drop it into your junk drawer. But you know as well as I do, that eventually the simmering flows over, that the junk drawers becomes too stuffed to close and that ignored trash begins to smell.
Every single one of those things is just perpetuating exactly what we don’t want in our lives.
This ritual is one that I’ve borrowed from many different sources and have morphed through the years.
This is my short version since my longer ones involves a bit more props and tools that not everyone has just laying around their house like I do. 🙂
I’ll save that ritual for another time.
This ritual isn’t one that I save simply for the end of the year. I use it anytime I feel like I need to release energetic gunk that is causing problems or blocking my energy. It is particularly helpful when I’m feeling like a person is a little too energetically sticky.
Letting Go Mini Ritual
Block out time where you won’t be bothered for about 20 minutes.
Gather your tools.
- Single piece of paper
- Heatproof bowl (I typically us a Pyrex glass measuring cup with a handle)
- Lighter/matches (I think you know where I’m going here)
- Journal (or some scrap paper)
- Glass of water
Part 1: Create a sacred space
Find a corner of your home, use your alter (if you have one), or sit undisturbed at your kitchen table.
Take 3 slow, deep breaths to bring your attention to the moment.
Make sure your feet are on the ground or you’re sitting directly on the floor. This helps ground you to the earth.
Optional: Call in your guides, angels, ascended masters, and/or ancestors for support, guidance and protection.
Part 2: So it begins
Take out a piece of paper and write:
“If I could let go of one thing, it would be……
Allow whatever arises to come forth without judgement. Sometimes you think you want to release one thing and you find that in this quiet moment, something else has jumped to front of the line. This could be a memory, a person, a shameful or embarrassment moment, a relationship, or some type of stickiness with another person.
Trust that what surfaces is exactly what needs to be released right now. Continue writing until you feel complete.
Then write these words:
“With gratitude and compassion for all involved I let go, I let go, I let go! Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”
Close your eyes and take another long deep breath and exhale forcefully as if blowing out birthday candles. Do this 3x.
Imagine letting go through your breath all the things you wrote down and anything else that may be lingering.
Part 3: Burn baby burn
Now for the fun part.
Grab your lighter/matches and your heat proof bowl. If the paper is large you may want to fold it up several times or tear it into several smaller pieces. Burn the piece of paper.
As you watch the paper burn, ask your guides or Mother Earth to take any stagnant energy and anything that doesn’t serve you into the earth to be recycled.
If you prefer not to use fire, you can tear the paper into tiny pieces and either flush down the toilet or bury in the ground outside.
Part 4: Bring in the light
Nature abhors a vacuum, so we need to replace what you let go of with something positive and healthy.
Close your eyes and imagine a beautiful white light above your head. Allow it to slowly rain down over you starting with the crown of your head and slowly working it’s way down to your forehead and then down to your chin and so on. As it moves down it is cleansing and enlivening you. Take your time and feel into the spaciousness and peace occurring.
Part 5: Jot some notes
Pull out your journal or a scarp piece of paper and jot down the experience. What came up for you? Any reflections, insights, words of wisdom you would like to remember from their experience.
Part 6: To complete
Don’t just jump up and get back to the day-to-day. Take a few minutes with your eyes closed and breathe in and out slowly. Allow whatever thoughts to flow in and out without judgement.
Place your hands over your heart and thank yourself for taking this time out for yourself.
Enjoy a large glass of water to bring you back to the present and to keep the positive energy flowing!
Remember a ritual isn’t something you typically do once and forget about. Especially when it comes to releasing and letting go of ‘stuff’ it’s good to do this periodically when you feel called to do so.
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