Finding Balance in Business
Maintaining one’s energy as a solopreneur can be tough.
There are so many things to do, to learn, people to network with and balancing all of that with other passions, family, kids, etc.
Energy is key to maintaining everything you want.
You probably know that I’ve never been a fan of the idea of perfect work-life balance.
For years we’ve been told we can have it all and we’ve mistaken that to mean, “we can have it all, at the same time.”
You can have the career, and the family, and have a regular workout regime, and host dinner parties every week, and show up for every baseball game or performance and .. and … and.
We have found ourselves exhausted and many of us chose to jump off this train thinking that owning our own business would then provide the “balance” we were desperately wanting (and were promised, ha!).
Instead we often create a more stress on our relentless pursuit towards creating a more balanced life. We find that we’re working longer hours than in our past careers and burning out our adrenals trying to hustle our tushies off making our passion – our purpose – into something sustainable.
The pressure is always on and full blast!
We internally berate ourselves when we take time to rest, rejuvenate, or do something simple for pleasure (that isn’t directly related to our business).
For years, I would get down on myself for reading a spiritual or self-development book before bed rather than a business book. Or if I listened to an audio book on chakras by Carolyn Myss in the car over a YouTube video by Gary V. I think, “There is so little time, I must cram all I can in to make my business a success.”
I crammed. And then I finally stopped.
So much do do do energy. So little be be be.
One thing that has stood out to me the last several years is that we often neglect ourselves.
It’s a vicious cycle that often leads to burn out.
We drive, push, strive, hustle, push some more. We are in a constant state of DOING.
It’s very much Yang in nature.
Yang is characterized as hot, active, bright, movement, going up, excitatory, masculine, expansion, fire, and generation.
(While I was working on my Masters in Chinese Medicine the instructors would say that kids are “Balls of Yang”… imagine a 6 year old boy – they are just go go go.)
Yin, on the other hand, is characterized as cold, slow moving, dim, inward, silent, going down, inhibitory, feminine, contraction, water, growth.
And just like day and night, Yin and Yang is in a state of constant and dynamic flow.
However you and me… we’re often not in flow.
We can find ourselves heavily entrenched in one. And these days it’s often the Yang energy of hustling!
When you think of nature and cycles. There is winter and summer. There is night and day. Hot and cold. You cannot have one without the other – they’re always flowing into and out of one another.
Even at midnight you are beginning to move to morning. And at the height of the day you are already beginning to move to evening.
For female solopreneurs, there is a time to push push push and there is a time to soften and quiet. There are moments to give and moments receive.
The Yin and Yang applies not only to every system of our body, to the cycles in nature, to the universe and beyond but it also applies to our business!
There are definitely times that require you to work diligently (doing) and then there are moments for you to rest (being). One inspires the other and one rejuvenates in order to do it all again.
I also think of when you start a business or a new project, you need all that Yang fire and excitation to get things launched and moving but the Yin energy to nurture and maintain it over time!
A creation cycle.
We often don’t listen to our bodies and what we really need. We have been trained to ignore the signals in attempt to keep going.
Imagine if we listened – really listened – to what our bodies and businesses need?
What do YOU really need right now?
Can you identify the Yin and Yang in your life and business? These days are you feeling more Yang? More Yin? Or, a lovely balance of both?
Do you notice that certain times of the year, the moon cycle or your own personal cycle, you are more Yang or more Yin.. can you utilize these energies and schedule accordingly?
How can YOU find more balance?
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