Being Vs. Doing: 3 Ways to Work Differently
How often do you find yourself completely overwhelmed with everything that needs to get done in a day?
You have your head down armed with a jammed-packed to-do list and just hoping that all this work will lead you to your desired outcome.
You love the IDEA of mindfulness and you might even meditate (some) days but you’re finding it more and more difficult to practice as you face your to do list and the mammoth amount of distractions.
I’ve been a informal student of mindfulness and meditation for many years.
Unlike nearly everything else I read, take courses on, get advanced certifications and even advanced degrees this I’ve done purely for myself rather than to help our business or to help others on their business or healing journey.
Mindfulness and meditation has been my personal journey that I infrequently talk about.
The journey of figuring out my place in the world and how to be the very best ME each and every day. It’s been challenging and difficult.
I have moments of blissful consistency and periods of erratic inconsistency. But I continue to come back to it time and again because I know that it brings me the type of calmness, focus and joy I crave.
It’s pretty clear to everyone around me when I’m practicing regularly and when I’ve fallen off the wagon. Just ask my husband.
I was reflecting this week on one of the factors of mindfulness – non-striving.
I said to myself, “What is that? I’ve been striving my whole life… and you’re telling me not to. Seriously? How the hell would I get anything done”
So I dug in more and found myself reviewing the notion of:
DOING vs. BEING
I am naturally a doer.
My mom (who passed away before I was 30) always envisioned me at this age running the world professionally while simultaneously running kids around with a clipboard and whistle. (Gotta love moms and their visions of who we are and who we could become).
I don’t know about you but I live in a near constant DOING state. And when I’m not DOING I’m planning the next thing to DO.
striving practicing to become more mindful both in my life and lately in my business.
So how does one practice this and still get shit done!
Good question… one I’ve been researching, reflecting and mulling for some time now.
Let’s first compare the two:
Busy busy busy
A discriminating mind.
Involves striving towards goals and motivated by achievement.
You are focused on planning, being productive and efficient.
You’re focused on problem-solving.
Often focused on fixing something.
You are focused on outcome.
A curious mind.
Focused on the present moment.
You acknowledge what is here rather than focused on goals.
Attention in on the present moment and not elsewhere or in the past or future.
There isn’t a need to evaluate or judge the experience.
Calmness and a sense of being centered.
You are focused on process.
So when you read this list my question is how the hell does one start, build or grow a business in the whole feely, totally present-moment, “Being” mode all the while getting things done?
Damn good question…
Just like with anything that has extremes, there is the middle ground.
A blend of the two.
And thankfully this is what some people call the Wise Mind.
The Wise Mind
What does the Wise Mind bring to the table and how can you find yours so that you are completely on present in this moment and still actively working towards the goals you’ve set for yourself? Here you go:
- You let go of having to achieve the goal WHILE throwing your entire self into the work of that same goal.
- It’s focused awareness WHILE engaging in activity.
- Doing what needs to be done in the moment WHILE lightly reviewing the past or planning for the future.
- Moving towards your goal WHILE experiencing the present moment and being aware.
- Tracking where you are in your life and how you will achieve what you’re setting out for WHILE remaining present in your life in this moment.
- Going whole hog towards your goals WHILE letting go of having to achieve them.
Understanding the theory of this is great but HOW does one tap into the wise mind while building her business?
3 Mindfulness Steps to get you moving towards your Wise Mind (and intentionally and calmly towards your goals)
- Paying attention on purpose by directing your attention.
- Moving into the present moment (which releases worrying about the future (anxiety) or ruminating about the past (depression)).
- Working on non-judgement. Releasing the overwhelming need to attach to the “shoulds” of life and critically judging yourself and others.
The most profound ideas in life are often the most simple and straight foward (we just like to complicate everything)
Easy? Well… not always.
This is a practice. No one expects mastery … soon or maybe ever!
Just keep practicing.
Be kind to yourself as you work on bringing more mindfulness into your work day and business.
Bringing a little of this into your life may just free up the space in your mind and in your life for magical things to happen with ease and joy.
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